Complex relationships is a topic that can be described using so many ideas. Some might think of a complex relationship as a physical relationship, like friendship, easily the most complex type of relationship out there. I read the article Rethinking the Friendship plot, by R.D. McClay. McClay provides a valid point about friendship, how friendship becomes a retrospective about the friends you left behind.
Plot Armor: The Leavers
My book club book, The Leavers, depicts the perfect example to how friendship is the most complex relationship. Michael and Deming started off as close friends, hanging out after school, playing sports together, etc. But as they started to live together more when Deming moved in with Michael, they created a brotherhood bond almost. Then, when Deming was adopted by white parents, he and Michael grew distant for almost 14 years of their lives, until they met again when they were in college. They started to become friends again, then Deming moved in with his mother in China for a couple of years, trying to find himself. Once he did, he came back to America and is now Michael's roommate.
Friendship is harder than literally anything
I know I skipped a lot of detail, but there is one recurring idea that goes on throughout this story. Michael and Deming never forgot about each other, and they always find a way to come back. That’s what makes a complex relationship so complex, the idea that there will be many ups that will be so great to experience, but then there are those downs that make you question why you are even friends with them in the first place. That’s the point the article attempts to make: friendship is almost never perfect, and is easily the hardest relationship to achieve, but it can be the most fruitful type of relationship out there.
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